A Big Part of the Problem

Ok, I need some advice. I've never been very good at romantic relationships (still 29 and single, right?) and part of the problem has always been getting too attached way too soon. I realize this and yet am powerless to stop it. The result? My heart gets broken very easily.

So, what is the answer? I try to remind myself in the initial stages of a shidduch that I'm working on developing a friendship. Yet, I still find myself imagining a life with that person and I get attached to that image.

Scary, I know.

Anyone have a surefire way to stop this desperate and unhealthy cycle? Any tips and tricks for thinking about those first few dates when you're just getting to know each other?